Introduction

AI usage is not a question of 'if', but 'how'. Its rise is inevitable. Like computers, the internet, and mobile phones before it, AI is rapidly becoming a part of everyday life and work. Why? Because the benefits it offers to society, productivity, and personal comfort far outweigh the perceived risks, at least as far as we can currently estimate.

And here’s a key point:

Independent of whether you’re for AI or against it, AI will evolve, be used, and impact society.

The real challenge isn’t about stopping it. It’s about guiding how we engage with it.

So the crucial question is no longer "Should we use AI?" but:

How do we use AI right?

This is the human performance question of our era.

1. The Inevitable Growth of AI Usage

Throughout history, humanity has adopted technologies that extend our power, ease our burdens, and increase our capabilities. The same is happening with AI, but this time on a scale we’ve never seen before.

AI doesn’t just automate physical lab...

More than 15 years ago, a colleague told me he had started swimming and signed up for a triathlon.

At the time, I had never swum the front crawl. In fact, water made me uncomfortable.

But something in me lit up.

“If he can do it… maybe I can too.”

That one conversation sparked something. A subtle but powerful shift — in how I spent my free time, my energy, and eventually… how I live.

So I learned. I trained. I raced. And I passed that passion on.

🎥 A Moment That Says More Than It Shows

One year ago, my son finished his second triathlon of the season. This video captures that moment, the podium, the success.

But what it doesn’t show is everything behind it:

🏃 His first race of the season, where he went out too fast and burned out by the start of the run.

🧠 The weeks that followed, spent training — not just his body, but his mindset.

🎯 Learning to pace himself. To go deep. To prepare. To reflect.

📈 And maybe most importantly: Shifting from comparing himself to others... to ...

“𝑊ℎ𝑜’𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑏𝑜𝑠𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒?”

That’s a question I often asked my kids when they were young. Their first instinct?
“The teacher?”
“The police?”
“Mom?”
“Dad?”

But I always waited for the deeper answer:
“I’m the boss of my own life.”

Because while we don’t control everything,
we do control something powerful:
 Our thoughts.
 Our actions.
 Our focus.
 Our attitude.

And that’s where true leadership begins, not in leading others, but in leading yourself.
This kind of leadership isn’t always visible.
It doesn’t always come with a title, a spotlight, or applause.

But it’s often the most important kind, because it shapes how you show up, what you pursue, and how you grow.

And it stands in sharp contrast to something I noticed recently…
At the recent NATO summit, I watched the NATO leaders:
Heads of state, ministers, decision-makers.

Some spoke with power.
Some spoke with polish.
Some were far less eloquent than the journalists covering them.

But here’s the difference:
The reporters may have mastered the skill of commu...

Today’s quote from the Dalai Lama speaks directly to something I believe is becoming more important in the age of AI, not less:

“𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵. 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘶𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘯 𝘶𝘱 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘮𝘴, 𝘥𝘰𝘶𝘣𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴.”

For a long time, in certain cultures, compassion was seen—especially in business—as something soft. Or even weak.
Something to leave at the door of your job, your ambition, your performance.

But this quote reframes compassion as what it really is:
 🧭 A human strength.
 🧩 A trust-builder.
 💞 The foundation of real connection.

In a world moving rapidly toward efficiency, automation, and now usage of AI, it’s easy to start thinking that transaction is enough. That if the result is delivered, the connection doesn’t matter.

But humans don’t build trust through transactions alone.
We build trust by sensing and feeling the other person’s doubts, fears, pain and by having the courage to share our own.

That’s what AI ca...

Twee maanden geleden beleefden we een week vol verbinding, groei en perspectief. Tijdens het allereerste ReZet Life & Business Event in Spanje werd niet alleen iets bijzonders beleefd, maar ook iets opgebouwd. Iets dat nu verder leeft.

Vandaag delen we de volgende stap in die reis:

De lancering van onze website →
https://www.rezet.today

Een plek waar onze visie, missie en het verhaal achter ReZet tot leven komen in woord, beeld én actie.

- ReZet gaat over (zelf)leiderschap — en de impact daarvan op je team, de mensen waar je van houdt en jezelf.
- Over bewust stilstaan om daarna te kunnen versnellen. Met meer helderheid, energie en focus.
- Over herontdekken wat je drijft — fysiek, mentaal, emotioneel en professioneel.

Deelnemers aan de eerste editie noemden het:
- “Verhelderend, verbindend, confronterend en helend tegelijk.”
- “Een geschenk aan jezelf en de mensen om je heen.”
- “Een route naar rust, helderheid en nieuwe actie.”

En dat is precies wat we met 'ReZet.Today' wil uitstralen:

Dat verand...

This week’s wisdom comes from the Dalai Lama:
“𝘈𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘺𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴… 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴, 𝘰𝘳 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘴... 𝘛𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦. 𝘛𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦.”

And he adds:
“…𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦. 𝘛𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴. 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘦𝘧𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘸𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘦.”

This matters—because everyone, even someone like the Dalai Lama, acknowledges that we all face negative, disempowering, doubtful thoughts from time to time. Thoughts like:
“I’m not good enough.”
“Who am I to do this?”
“What if I fail?”
"Did I do okay?"

A powerful example of this came from Oprah Winfrey. After decades of interviewing presidents, celebrities, authors, and world figures, she revealed that nearly every single guest, no matter how famous o...

Yesterday was May 5th — Liberation Day in the Netherlands. We remembered the end of WWII and the liberation from occupation. It’s a powerful reminder of how precious freedom is. Freedom that was once taken… and then courageously reclaimed.

But as I sit with that word — liberation — it feels bigger than one historical moment. It feels timeless. Because while we may live in peace, many still face war—out there, and in here. Some battles are visible. Some are buried so deep, we forget we’re still fighting them.

This theme of freedom runs deep for me.

My parents each came to the Netherlands in search of something freer, more possible. My father in the early ’60s. My mother in the early ’70s when they got married. After Indonesian independence, new space opened up—for movement, opportunity, and choice. They built a life here. And through that, they gave me a foundation of freedom they never fully had themselves. It wasn’t easy. But it was brave.

And now, I see how my journey continues t...

One of the things I love about timeless wisdom is how often it challenges what we used to believe about ourselves—and life.

Today’s quote is from the Dalai Lama:
“𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩.”
And in his words:
“𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴, 𝘣𝘺 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦, 𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘦, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘴𝘰 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘶𝘭.”

For a long time, I saw this differently.
When I was younger (😉), I had a very different view of compassion:
- I thought compassion was too soft, not something that mattered in the real world.
- I believed it belonged only in our personal lives—not in business, leadership, or performance.
- I associated it with weakness, or something only "sensitive" people talked about.
- I thought you either felt it or you didn’t—and if you didn’t, that was just the way you were wired.

Looking back, that view came from inexperience, and maybe even a fear of feeling too much.

Now I see compassion very differently. Through my own experiences—moments of pain, challenge, and also connection—I’ve come to understand that co...

It’s Friday evening. For many, the weekend has just begun.
Before you rush into recovery mode or start ticking off your “rest checklist,” I want to share something powerful I heard yesterday.

🎧 It was a short episode from Dora at Headspace radio—and it hit home.
She spoke vulnerably about experiencing burnout.

And here’s the twist: Dora teaches mindfulness. She knows the tools. She lives the practice. Still, she found herself completely worn out.
And that’s what really landed for me.

Knowing better doesn’t mean you’re protected.
Even applying the “right” tools can backfire if the intention behind them is skewed.

Dora said it beautifully: “𝙄 𝙝𝙖𝙙 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙖 𝙩𝙖𝙨𝙠 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙘𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙞𝙨𝙝.”

How many of us do that?

Turn meditation into performance.
Turn walking into data.
Turn recovery into another sprint toward “getting better.”

I’ve done it too. I still catch myself doing it 

Because even in rest, there can be that hidden agenda: I want this to fix me.
And ironically, that mindset bec...

Wrong question. 🤣

I’ve seen this play out so many times:

The high performer who delivers incredible results—but gets overlooked when it’s time for a promotion. The relationship builder who brings great energy, leads with empathy—but is told they need to "deliver more" or “be more strategic.”

Both walk away frustrated. Both wonder what they’re missing. Both are right and limited at the same time.

Here’s what I believe:

You’re not born into a fixed work style. You’ve likely grown into it—through your environment, habits, beliefs, or past success. But that style can be upgraded.

🎯If you're great at your job (but not so focused on people)…

Strengths:

✔️ Reliable, sharp, results-driven.

✔️ You get things done—and done well.

✔️ You’re the “go-to” person for complex problems.

Frustrations you might face:

😤 “Why did they get promoted? I deliver more than anyone!”

😤 Feeling unseen because you don't self-promote or "play politics."

😤 Struggling to get buy-in for your ideas, even ...